It can be hard if you dont have a swatch of fabric from your gown to match shoes exactly. I had my pink shoes made to match
my gown, but I also can recommend a man who dyes shoes if you need. As to the jewellery, I think the key to wedding jewellery
is " to keep it simple" and you cant go wrong. Remember "less is more". The bodice of my gown was heavily beaded so I didnt
wear a necklace and I think that is good rule of thumb. I would probably choose a simple single diamond or diamonte on a chain
or a string of pearls. I had long earrings has I have a long neck and a matching bracelet all of swarovski crystals to match my tiara.
Once you make the decision to have gold or silver jewellery I think the choices wont be as hard as you are imagining. If you go somewhere
that specialises in wedding jewellery (Ican recommend a couple of places in Sydney Rd Brunswick) you could always ask if you can exchange them
if they dont go with your dress.