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Readings for a friend

Sun Jan 03, 2010 5:07 pm

Hi Girls,

I am hoping you can help.
I have asked one of my close friends (not in the bridal party) to do a reading/non religious blessing during the ceremony.
I am wondering if any of you know of any nice readings that she can read. She wants us to pick it so she knows that we like it, but I havent been able to find any. Most of the readings I can find are what we would have included in our ceremony between the both of us instead of coming from a friend - hope that makes sense.

If you can help, that would be much appreciated :) :)
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Sun Jan 03, 2010 5:11 pm

Here's the one we had my Mum read. It's an American Indian blessing & there are several slight variations I found online but I liked this the best.

Now you will feel no rain
for each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now you will feel no loneliness,
for each of you will be companionship to the other.
Now you are two persons,
but there are three lives before you: his life, her life and
your life together.

Go now to your dwelling place,
to enter into the days of your life together.
May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead
and through all the years may happiness be your
companion to the place where the river meets the sun,
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect,
And remind yourselves often of what brought you together.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness,
gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your relationship-
as they threaten all relationships at one time or another-
remember to focus on what is right between you, not only
that part which seems wrong.
In this way, you can ride out the storms
when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that
even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.
May your hands be forever clasped in friendship
And your hearts joined forever in love.
 
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Sun Jan 03, 2010 5:25 pm

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Re: Readings for a friend

Sun Jan 03, 2010 5:26 pm

This is the reading we're having. We've edited it slightly to suit us:

The Art Of Marriage
by Wilferd A. Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things...

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is having patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

This is "The Art of Marriage".
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Sun Jan 03, 2010 5:29 pm

This is what we are having:

FIRST READING
Not just today – xx

Not just today, but always, may you stand side by side to show the world your love and your commitment to each other.

Yesterday can no longer hurt you, as from this day on you plan your lives together.

You know that the road will not always be smooth. There will be testing times and uneasy times, but, if you remain at each others side, you will overcome these and be stronger because of them.

Your love has brought new purpose to your lives, new warmth and happiness.

It has brought a rewarding joy of sharing with each other, caring for each other, and above all, having faith in each other, not just for today – but always….



SECOND READING
Love is the reason by xx

Love is the reason why this day
Was chosen by you both
To begin your lives together.
And love is the reason why you both
Will give with all your hearts
For the good of each other.

Love is the reason
That together you will become one –
One in hope
One in believing in life, and
One in sharing the coming years.

:heart: :heart: :heart:
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Wed Jan 06, 2010 4:10 pm

Some I have collected in my search for a reading:

Excerpt from The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho

“When he looked into her dark eyes, and saw that her lips were poised between a laugh and silence, he learned the most important part of the language that all the world spoke — the language that everyone on earth was capable of understanding in their heart. It was love. Something older than humanity, more ancient than the desert. Something that exerted the same force whenever two pairs of eyes met, as had theirs here at the well. She smiled, and that was certainly an omen — the omen he had been awaiting, without even knowing he was, for all his life. The omen he had sought to find with his sheep and in his books, in the crystals and in the silence of the desert.
“It was the pure Language of the World. It required no explanation, just as the universe needs none as it travels through endless time. What the boy felt at that moment was that he was in the presence of the only woman in his life, and that, with no need for words, she recognized the same thing. He was more certain of it than of anything in the world. He had been told by his parents and grandparents that he must fall in love and really know a person before becoming committed. But maybe people who felt that way had never learned the universal language. Because, when you know that language, it’s easy to understand that someone in the world awaits you, whether it’s in the middle of the desert or in some great city. And when two such people encounter each other, and their eyes meet, the past and the future become unimportant. There is only that moment, and the incredible certainty that everything under the sun has been written by one hand only. It is the hand that evokes love, and creates a twin soul for every person in the world. Without such love, one’s dreams would have no meaning.”


Excerpt from The Bridge Across Forever - Richard Bach

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.


Union - Robert Fulghum

You have known each other for years, through the first glance of acquaintance to this moment of commitment. At some moment, you decided to marry.
From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will" and "you will" and "we will” - those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” - and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. Just two people working out what they want, what they believe, what they hope for each other.

All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed - well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another - acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. You have learned that good company and friendship count for more than wealth, good looks or position. And you’ve learned that marriage is a maze into which we wander – a maze that is best got through with a great companion.

Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this - is my husband, this - is my wife.


I will be here - Steven Curtis Chapman

If in the morning when you wake
If the sun does not appear
I will be here
If in the dark we lose sight of love
Hold my hand and have no fear
I will be here.
I will be here
When you feel like being quiet
When you need to speak your mind I will listen
Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together
And I will be here
If in the morning when you wake
If the future is unclear
I will be here
As sure as seasons were made for change
Our lifetimes were made for years
I will be here
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Wed Jan 06, 2010 4:17 pm

Marriage Means Being In Love For The Rest Of Your Life - Chris Ardis

Marriage is love. It is walking hand in hand together. It’s laughing with each other about silly little things, and learning to discuss big things with care and tenderness.

In marriage, love is trusting each other when you’re apart. It’s getting over disappointments and hurts, knowing that these are present in all relationships.

It’s the realisation that there is no one else in this world that you would rather be with than the one you’re married to. It’s thinking of new things to do together. It’s growing old together. Marriage is being in love for the rest of your life.
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Wed Jan 06, 2010 4:19 pm

Omigod! Union - Robert Fulghum just made me cry! At Work! Love it!
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Wed Jan 06, 2010 4:30 pm

turbo311 wrote:
Omigod! Union - Robert Fulghum just made me cry! At Work! Love it!


you're going to love this video
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Wed Jan 06, 2010 5:01 pm

This is what I read for my sisters wedding
She spent 6 years in the Uk and had friends from all over the world at her wedding

> From the east I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the wind, I wish you wisdom in hardship,
> laughter in joy, trust in each other.
> I offer blessings over all beginnings you ever choose together,
> and the brightness of all dawning times.
> Under the overarching sky, I offer blessings,
> in the name of all teachers.
>Here I gave them a windchime

> From the south I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the fire, I wish you strength over grimness,
> light in darkness, pride in each other.
> I offer blessings over all things you are passionate in together,
> and the warmth of flame in the joining of your souls.
> Under the glory of our sun, I offer blessings,
> in the name of all guardians.

Here we gave them a Candle

> From the west I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the sea, I wish you compassion in grief,
> patience in frustration, delight in each other.
> I offer blessings over all laughter you share together
> and the calm of the eternal waves under moonlight.
> Above the sparkle of the oceans, I offer blessings
> in the name of all lovers.

Here we gave them Sand

>
> From the north I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the mountain, I wish you fortitude in delay,
> beauty in stillness, support in each other.
> I offer blessings over all things lasting you hold together
> and the glow at the heart of an amber.
> Above the eternity of the rising earth, I offer blessings
> in the name of all heroes.

Here a rock from the house we grew up in

> From within I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of those without, I wish you delight in life
> diversity in unity, love always
> I offer blessings over all companions travelled with together
> and true hearts to share unstintingly
> In heartfelt love and delight, I offer blessings
> in the name of all friends.

and here a friendship bear

She had no idea what I was going to do and asked me to surprise her.
I got this off here, but I can't find it now
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Wed Jan 06, 2010 9:41 pm

drinkyoupretty wrote:
turbo311 wrote:
Omigod! Union - Robert Fulghum just made me cry! At Work! Love it!


you're going to love this video



What a cool idea! I love it!!!!
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Thu Jan 07, 2010 5:29 pm

DYP I love so many of yours!! Union, the bridge across forever & I will be here are all awesome!! May just have to steal one of them
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 11:23 am

I Promise - Dorothy R. Colgan

I promise to give you the best of myself
and to ask of you no more than you can give.

I promise to respect you as your own person
and to realise that your interests, desires and needs
are no less important than my own.

I promise to share with you my time and my attention
and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship.

I promise to keep myself open to you,
to let you see through the window of my world into my innermost fears
and feelings, secrets and dreams.

I promise to grow along with you,
to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.

I promise to love you in good times and in bad,
with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how.
Completely and forever.


On Your Wedding Day - Anon

Today is a day you will always remember
The greatest in anyone's life
You'll start off the day just two people in love
And end it as husband and wife.

It's a brand new beginning, the start of a journey
With moments to cherish and treasure
And although they'll be times when you both disagree
These will surely be outweighed by pleasure

You'll have heard many words of advice in the past
When the secrets of marriage were spoken
But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
Where the bond of true love lies unbroken

So live happy forever as lovers and friends
It's the dawn of a new life for you
As you stand there together with love in your eyes
From the moment you whisper ‘I do'

And with luck all your hopes and your dreams can be real
May success find its way to your hearts
Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
But today is the day it all starts


Yes I´ll Marry You - Pam Ayres

Yes, I´ll marry you, my dear,
And here´s the reason why;
So I can push you out of bed
When the baby starts to cry
And I hear a knocking
And it´s creepy and it´s late
I hand you the torch you see
And you investigate
Yes I´ll marry you my dear
And you may not apprehend it
But when the tumble dryer goes
Its you that has to mend it
You have to face the neighbour
Should our roggie cat attack him
And if a drunkard fondles me
Its you that has to whack him
Yes Ill marry you
You´re virile and you´re lean
Your house is like a pigsty
I´ll help you keep it clean
That sexy little dinner
Which you served by candle night
As I do the chappatis you can cook it every night
It´s you who has to work the drill
And put up curtain track
And when I´ve got a migraine its you who gets the flack
I do see great advantages
But none of them for you
And so before you see the light
I do I do I do I do


From The Irrational Season - Madeleine L’Engle

But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.


These I Can Promise - Author Unknown
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;
I cannot promise you an easy pathway
That leads away from change or growing old.

But I can promise all my heart's devotion;
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
A love that's ever true and ever growing;
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.


Our Love - Bruce B. Wilmer
Our love is something we have built
From passions, hopes and dreams.
It's safe from any passing moods,
Secure from all extremes.
It's something real and special,
Something solid, something pure.
It's something we can always count on,
ringing sound and sure.
It's something grounded in the heart,
Emitting confidence.
It lives in our emotions;
It is something we can sense.
Our love remains a binding force,
Resistant to all strife.
Amidst the outer pressures,
it's our anchor throughout life.


Our great adventure - Pamela Dugdale

We are today still dizzy with the astonishment of love.
We are surrounded by affection – by smiles and kindliness,
by flowers and music and gifts and celebration.
Yet they enclose a silence
where we are close with one another.
My eyes see only you.
I hear nothing but the words
we speak to one another
This is the day we start our life together.
This is our new beginning.
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 11:36 am

DYP - I love the first one!!! :heart:
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 11:40 am

me too! alas FH & I decided on having only 1 reading... (The Art of Marriage)

I have spent a lot of time compiling these readings. I didn't want religious or sappy love ones. I guess you could say the ones I've posted are more definitions of marriage or defines the purpose of the union, I guess?? :e_think: Deep, huh?
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 1:42 pm

turbo311 wrote:
Omigod! Union - Robert Fulghum just made me cry! At Work! Love it!


Lol! I found this online last week too and bawled my eyes out at it. FH doesn't love it though so we've rejected it. I think it's lovely though.

I think we're pretty set on these two, although I feel like I must have read every single wedding reading out there and then some. I honestly think this has been the hardest part of organising the wedding so far!

First reading: Sonnet 116 by Shakespeare (I love Shakespeare and we used to live in Stratford upon Avon so it's quite apt!)

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Second reading (took us aaaages to decide on this

The Promise – Eileen Rafter
The sun danced on the snow with a sparkling smile;
As two lovers sat quietly, alone for a while.
Then he turned and said, with a casual air
(though he blushed from his chin to the tips of his hair),
"I think I might like to get married to you."
"Well then," she said, "there's a thought.
But what if we can't promise to be all that we ought?
Can you promise me, say, that you won't rage and shout,
If I'm late yet again, when we plan to go out,
For I know I can't promise I'll learn to ignore
Dirty socks or damp towels strewn all over the floor.
So if we can't vow to be all that we should
I'm not sure what to do though the idea's quite good."
But he gently smiled and tilted his head
Till his lips met her ear and softly he said
"I promise to weave my dreams into your own,
that wherever you breathe will be my heart's home.
I promise that, whether with rags or with gold I am blessed,
Your smile is the jewel I will treasure the best.
Do you think then, my love, we should marry - do you?"
"Yes, she said smiling, "I do."

(We quite liked that it was a little bit more light hearted)

We're also asking the celebrant to read this prayer as we feel it acknowledges both the family and friends that have travelled to be with us, and also those that were unable to

Wedding Prayer
By Robert Louis Stevenson

Lord, behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in
which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
for our friends in all parts of the earth.
Amen
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 2:12 pm

turbo311 wrote:
Omigod! Union - Robert Fulghum just made me cry! At Work! Love it!


Me too!!!
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 2:15 pm

bonnyh wrote:
> From the east I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the wind, I wish you wisdom in hardship,
> laughter in joy, trust in each other.
> I offer blessings over all beginnings you ever choose together,
> and the brightness of all dawning times.
> Under the overarching sky, I offer blessings,
> in the name of all teachers.
>Here I gave them a windchime

> From the south I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the fire, I wish you strength over grimness,
> light in darkness, pride in each other.
> I offer blessings over all things you are passionate in together,
> and the warmth of flame in the joining of your souls.
> Under the glory of our sun, I offer blessings,
> in the name of all guardians.

Here we gave them a Candle

> From the west I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the sea, I wish you compassion in grief,
> patience in frustration, delight in each other.
> I offer blessings over all laughter you share together
> and the calm of the eternal waves under moonlight.
> Above the sparkle of the oceans, I offer blessings
> in the name of all lovers.

Here we gave them Sand

>
> From the north I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of the mountain, I wish you fortitude in delay,
> beauty in stillness, support in each other.
> I offer blessings over all things lasting you hold together
> and the glow at the heart of an amber.
> Above the eternity of the rising earth, I offer blessings
> in the name of all heroes.

Here a rock from the house we grew up in

> From within I come to offer blessings
> For the powers of those without, I wish you delight in life
> diversity in unity, love always
> I offer blessings over all companions travelled with together
> and true hearts to share unstintingly
> In heartfelt love and delight, I offer blessings
> in the name of all friends.

and here a friendship bear



This is beautiful too!!! Could be applied to a pagan ceremony as it covers the elements of the pentagram.
 
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Re: Readings for a friend

Fri Jan 08, 2010 2:16 pm

So far I'm loving Love is the reason (thanx Russa)
and also loving Union ( i read it and got chills and could imagine it being red.
They are both on a list i will force fh to read.
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