Speech Question

[*danni*]

I have decided to face my fears and make a speech
BUT I'mjust wondering how to word it.. I want to thank my parents for helping out sooooo much, not only for being wonderful parents but for helping out with the wedding- both emotionally and financially. However- FMIL hasn't shown an ounce of interest, and I don't think she will contribute financially.
I feel I have to mention her in my sppech- but what do I say?

[smarsme]

Maybe you can thank her for bringing up your FH to be the wonderful man who you're marrying??

[MrsMurphy]

I had the same issue. I thanked her for welcoming me to the family so warmly. I think as long as you mention her and thank her for something.

[*danni*]

Ooh, I like both of these!! Perfect- thanks!!

[greensmonster]

Maybe you can thank her for bringing up your FH to be the wonderful man who you're marrying??

Haven't decided if I am going to do a speech yet or not, but I have the exact same problem and will be saying exactly that... I might not like lots of the things she's done, I can't really honestly thank her for welcoming me into her family, but I can genuinely gush about what a great job she did raising FH cos he's amazing:)

[turbo311]

My MIL is an awful awful woman and as such is not invited to the wedding.

That said in the spirit that maybe one day we will reconcile - once I have given my speech Im finishing my toasting my MIL in her absence with the line - To my new MIL who unfortunatly could not be with us today, for raising the love of my life...

That way I feel that Im still doing my bit as DIL but Im not doing anything that I dont feel sincere about such as Thanking for anything -

[mrsko]

Maybe you can thank her for bringing up your FH to be the wonderful man who you're marrying??

I second this, good point by the way.

[nighthitcher]

sounds good to me

[mini_k27]

I have a similar problem, except the person is my mother, not MIL.

I'm not sure what I'm going to say in my speech to my mother. She won't be contributing financially or otherwise to the wedding, and I'm pretty sure she won't show any interest in the planning. I also don't feel all that close to her emotionally and have some resentment about my upbringing and the type of parent she has been.

The only thing I can think of is that she was a single parent (my feelings of resentment have nothing to do with this) and I could say something along the lines of thanking her for the challenges she experienced while bringing up her children in the face of adversity. Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

(sorry for hijacking the thread!)

[emmylouly]

I have a similar problem, except the person is my mother, not MIL.

I'm not sure what I'm going to say in my speech to my mother. She won't be contributing financially or otherwise to the wedding, and I'm pretty sure she won't show any interest in the planning. I also don't feel all that close to her emotionally and have some resentment about my upbringing and the type of parent she has been.

The only thing I can think of is that she was a single parent (my feelings of resentment have nothing to do with this) and I could say something along the lines of thanking her for the challenges she experienced while bringing up her children in the face of adversity. Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

(sorry for hijacking the thread!)

Hmm, toughie.

She did give birth to you I suppose, she will always be your mother. Maybe something along the lines of 'thanks for doing the best you could'? 'Thanks for showing your support by celebrating the day with us'?