You know what a lot of it is?? Pure outright JEALOUSY. Yup. Women can be outright bitches to each other while still pretending to be 'friends'. Why, I don't know - maybe it's hormonal? Preconditioning? Beats me!
I'm a real 'ladette' and have no time for la-di-dah precious princess types. Which is probably why i was always hanging out with the guys discussing planes, or sci-fi, or cars or whatever - to escape the inane ranting about babies, boyrfriends and bitchiness that women seem to thrive on!! And don't be fooled into thinking your supposed 'best friend' is necessarily barracking for you and your FH. IF she isn't in a similar situation, she's more likely to ***** & moan...not because she's necessarily pissed at YOU - she's pissed at your HAPPINESS.
I haven't nominated any BMs, other than my sister at my home wedding ceremony in March and my little niece as flowergirl. In January it's a free-for-all - I told my peeps whoever makes it to Cocos gets to be my bridesmaid! No problems expected there! LOL!
Maybe all those girls here who are yet to CHOOSE their BMs should run a lottery instead, or do a Bridesmaids Test (Q&A!!). Or Interview their mates to see who has what it takes to BE the MOH/BM...kinda like a job! At least that's egalitarian and will weed out potential troublemakers/slackers.