Hey Agape - just out of curiosity (being a Sunday bride), what's the deal for us??
*If you are unhappy with something about the wedding (timing, no children etc) come and talk to the bride or groom about it. Don't b!tch to other people about it, certainly not at the reception, where the bride can overhear you, and have to be persuaded not to tell you to get the hell out of her reception!
Absolutely agree that you shouldn't ***** to other people, but I think I agree with the earlier "rule" that if you have a problem with the wedding (ie timing or no kids), it is your issue, not the bride and grooms. I'm sure they have put a lot of thought into their wedding and how they want it so if you have a problem, tough noogies! Either accept that is how it is and enjoy the day your hosts have organised, or just don't go.
It depends. I would be more accommodating to my family/extremely close friend then I would to just a friend. And maybe unhappy isn't the correct term, concerned would be better.
For example I am going to DH's cousins wedding next week. Originally they intended to go overseas and get married, but a big stink was kicked up about how their Nan wouldn't be able to attend. So they have compromised and having their wedding on a boat here in Sydney Harbour.
Half the family have been b!tching behind the poor bride's back, saying how she is unfair, her Nan can't go because she can't get to the toilet on the boat because it's downstairs, blah blah blah. In the end, an Aunty has convinced Nan not to attend the reception for this reason. If they had just spoken to the bride, she could have sorted something out but because of all the backstabbing and in-fighting, she is pretty angry and hurt by whats gone on.