I'm a regular on here, but thought I'd post under a pseudonym just in case.
I need some advice. Here's a bit of backstory: My DH and I were married at a registry office almost five years ago when I was still a teenager and he was only just not. None of our family know about this and only some of our friends do. Since then, we've become 'engaged' (I still got a proposal and a ring
), and are now planning a wedding for next year which we couldn't be happier about. I'm so excited to have family and friends all together and celebrating our relationship -- and we also get to have a wedding!
We met and booked a celebrant recently who is totally fine with our situation and will just not be able to say certain legal aspects of the ceremony, apparently we're not the first to have done this. However, she also suggested that we could come up with a way to tell everyone during the ceremony that we are already married. We hadn't ever considered this before, but now that I'm thinking more about it, it might be nice to have everyone know and not be concerned that they will 'find out' somehow and be upset. I do have a bunch of issues though that I would love your thoughts on:
1. How would you word it? Our celebrant suggested telling it as a story?
2. Would you tell those closest to you beforehand so that they weren't upset at finding out at the same time as everybody else?
3. I would hate it if the whole day we were harassed with, "why didn't you tell me?", "why did you get married before?", "why did you bother having another wedding?".
4. Would also hate it if people got genuinely upset about it all. I would hope that no one would get angry as they are at our wedding and are able to celebrate with us anyway.
5. Should we even do this? Are we crazy for thinking that this could possibly be a good idea?
Sorry for the long post, we have plenty of time to think about it, just after some anonymous feedback