So i'm just in the early stages, and the part that I really don't want to tackle is the invite list. We wanted a small wedding 30 ish of immediate family and close friends. When i asked FH to write down a rough list of names on his side, he started off good then it became " well if i invite him, i'll have to invite..., and .. is my childhood friend and this person will find out so better invite them.
I said i was just inviting immediate family, few friends and my aunts and uncles..no cousins. On my side i had around 15 people i wanted to come. He said well my mum will invite all her 9 siblings. I said fine..the difference is, they are in nz and everytime they have come to australia they have bludged a ticket off someone else lol, so I said your not paying for them. Plus he hasn't heard from probably 6 of those aunts/uncles in years. My relos are happy to travel (they are all down south), and pay accommodation for a night then travel back home. If they are busy or cant afford it, they decline. His side of the family, most would expect to stay at our place (2bedroom!!) he has already told 12 people they can stay!!...and that could be bad cos they might never leave
lol When i said, wouldn't they just book a nice cheap hotel instead of having to sleep on lounges or floor, he said 'na its maori styles'
Maybe the only way to get them back home is to say we are having our honeymoon in nz, and we'd go back with them for a bit
I can foresee his father having to fork out money for some hotel rooms, which peeves me. Bludging is a pet hate of mine, and it has presented itself many times in our relationship, in regards to his family.
Gets a bit tricky for him though, because in maori/islander families a lot of close friends are actually cousins, so when his best friend is a cousin, he feels bad inviting him and not his brothers.
I know so many people who have got to the invite stage and pulled the plug on the wedding and eloped. I just wish people could receive an invite, and accept or decline without having to whinge, b^tch or bludge.