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Sandii2
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Calling off the wedding - letting guests know??

Sun Apr 29, 2007 10:05 pm

Hi All,

My Fiance has told me today that he doesn't want to get married, 8 weeks out from the wedding. I am hurt but I'll survive. Now comes the hard part of actually telling our Family and Friends. I think that we should each verbally let them know that we are no longer getting married and send something to those guests we can't get hold of by phone or in person. I am struggling with the wording and was wondering if you could offer some suggestions?

Here is one example I have come up with:

It is with much regret that
**** and ****
announce that
their marriage
has been cancelled.

We thank you all for your understanding during this difficult time.

Is this too harsh?

Would really appreciate any feedback.
 
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Sun Apr 29, 2007 10:14 pm

I am mean, old and would make him do it BUT, it is best to not walk that path than to be stuck with a divorce, or divorces.

Big typing hugs for you!

Your wording is fine is to me as I would not know how to say it any better!
 
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Sun Apr 29, 2007 10:37 pm

Your wording sounds good. Hope everything works out for you :roll:
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 5:44 am

I'm sorry this has happened to you, and hope you keep your inner strength throughout this time.

I think the wording is fine. Doesn't point fingers.

I think if you are not wanting to answer a lot of questions then send it to everyone you don't see regularly (or wouldn't have seen before the wedding)

*cyber hugs*
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 6:36 am

You are being very strong and calm about it all. I think your wording is fine, it is short and to the point. Wishing you all the best for your future.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 6:39 am

I think you are handling this is the best way possible

Good luck hon it wouldnt be an easy thing to do
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 7:03 am

I also think the wording is fine...our thoughts are with you at this time. Good luck with everything.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 7:21 am

Sorry to hear that this has happened. And I think that your wording sounds fine.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:17 am

That is really sad, I am so sorry to hear that this is happening to you. Although better now than in a few months time I suppose.

I think your wording is great. Yes it is direct and to the point, but I don't have a problem with that at all. It is better than being all vague and wafty about it.

Best wishes for this difficult time.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:19 am

Better that he tells you now and not a week after the wedding (much more expensive). Sorry to hear about that though and I hope you are doing okay.

I think the wording of that note sounds as good as it can considering the circumstances.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:31 am

Pelican wrote:
Are you cancelling he wedding for good or postponing it?

I noticed you still referred to him as your fiance, so perhaps you could use a different word to "cancel"

I hope everything turns out for the best for you. It might be a blessing in disguise!

I agree - that was what stuck out to me the *cancel* bit
personally I would put that *we are not getting married on XXX *
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:49 am

Sorry this has happened to you. Hope it all works out for the best.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:52 am

yeah, i think called off would be better than cancelled - it makes you sound like a train or something...
wishing you all the best for your future...
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:23 am

Sorry Hun

*hugs* I think your wording is fine. I have to agree I would be making him do it.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:45 am

OMG, thats terrible... big hugs... i think your wording is just right!!!
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:34 am

Oh boy, I am very sorry to hear this.

My heart goes out to you. I think your wording is fine.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 12:08 pm

I agree the wording is fine, if the wedding will never go ahead

otherwise post poneing would be better than cancelling
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 4:55 pm

Sorry to hear that :( I hope that the two of you are still together and are working on anything that needs to be worked on.

I think the wording is fine but if the two of youa re still in a realtionship, I would probably say something like;

It is with much regret that
**** and ****
announce that
their wedding
has been postponed indefinitely.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 5:05 pm

I agree that postponed indefinately sounds better.
I hope things work out for you both.
 
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Mon Apr 30, 2007 5:28 pm

Hi All and thank you so much for all of your replies. I mostly lurk here and am always impressed by the level of support you offer each other.

I probably should have been clearer in my original post but it was almost 11pm by my clock and I was so exhausted. He is officially my ex-finance and from what he has said today my ex-partner. I completely agree about telling me now - I do appreciate how difficult it would have been for him to tell me.

His reasoning is that we are heading in different directions in our lives and he feels like I don't 'get him'. I am not really sure what this means and his clarification of this statement doesn't make sense when he tells me. Sorry I am probably not making sense but he has me completely bamboozled because honestly this has all come to a head in a week although clearly he has been feeling this for a while longer and I had no idea!

Thanks again for all of your suggestions with the wording. I am going to get in and do the cancellation notices over the next couple of days and start looking ahead at my future.

Best of luck to all of you with your weddings.

xx
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