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Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:53 pm

I am sick of this wedding.

The dates have changed so many times that l just want to be married already. Is it rude to have just a ceremony, in a garden, maybe with some fingerfood and champers, and then spend the rest on our honeymoon?

I would just as soon elope, but FH wants everyone there...
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:17 pm

Nup, not rude - 'your day, your way'. Do what makes you happy :mrgreen:
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:19 pm

by slwedding on Fri Oct 17, 2008 5:17 pm

Nup, not rude - 'your day, your way'. Do what makes you happy


hehe, l wish FMIL agreed with you there..
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:20 pm

I agree! Do what makes you happy. I like the idea of fingerfood and champers!
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:38 pm

Im with the others, not rude !
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 6:42 pm

I think it's perfectly fine to do it that way, particularly as you will be having finger food and champagne.

You may have to put up with the questions of why youre not doing it the "traditional" way though, especially from the oldies!
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 7:59 pm

I think it sounds great. Perfect. With weddings there seems to be a pressure on what you do and the amount it costs. Too much! 8O I agree, do what makes you happy. :)
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 8:09 pm

Why don't you elope? or do a registry wedding with a dinner at a restaurant of your choice.
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 8:59 pm

My original idea was a ceremony with finger foods and champagne, then an intimate family dinner with just FH and my immediate families.

UNFORTUNATELY as soon as my parents found out we were engaged, they got on the blower to all my aunties and uncles telling them "there's going to be a wedding!"

So yeah.... do it!!!! Not rude at all!! :D
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 9:14 pm

Sounds perfect. Your ceremony followed by champagne and canapes for your guests is a great way to celebrate your marriage. :)
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 9:49 pm

Doesn't sound rude at all, sounds nice :) I'd like to have a wedding without too much hassle (I don't know how hassle worked its way into mine :S )
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Fri Oct 17, 2008 10:48 pm

grevinde wrote:
Sounds perfect. Your ceremony followed by champagne and canapes for your guests is a great way to celebrate your marriage. :)


I completely agree!
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:07 am

Kwitty wrote:
My original idea was a ceremony with finger foods and champagne, then an intimate family dinner with just FH and my immediate families.

UNFORTUNATELY as soon as my parents found out we were engaged, they got on the blower to all my aunties and uncles telling them "there's going to be a wedding!"

So yeah.... do it!!!! Not rude at all!! :D


This is exactly what we're doing. Having a light afternoon tea after our ceremony and just the bridal party and parents are having dinner with us later. just be careful as people may try invite themselves to dinner saying 'i will come and pay my way' and u have to explain that this is just close people. Esp hard to explain to aunts and uncles
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:53 pm

Sounds perfect to me.....do what makes u happy!!!
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sat Oct 18, 2008 6:45 pm

MrsSomers wrote:
I think it's perfectly fine to do it that way, particularly as you will be having finger food and champagne.

You may have to put up with the questions of why youre not doing it the "traditional" way though, especially from the oldies!


If they ask, ask them how much they think the average wedding costs these days :lol:
 
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Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:12 pm

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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:57 pm

I agree with the other girls. My husband and I both look back on our wedding day and we both agree that we enjoyed the ceremony way more than the reception. In fact, once we got all our location shots done, we just wanted to go back to the hotel and spend the night with each other.

So go for it! The ceremony is the best part, the reception is just for all the guest to get drunk and eat free food.
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sat Oct 18, 2008 8:11 pm

i agree,sounds good,its kind of a bit like a cocktail reception,only with out the huge price tag hehe :) I'd come lol
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sat Oct 18, 2008 8:31 pm

I think it sounds like a great idea! Not rude at all
 
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Re: Is it rude to have just a ceremony?

Sun Oct 19, 2008 9:14 am

I think it sounds beautiful - it shows that you've really concentrated on the ceremony, not just the big party afterwards! :lol: If I were invited, I definately wouldn't think it was rude.
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