Unfortunately my partner's parents have passed away but, even if they hadn't, they wouldn't be able to watch him as we live in Adelaide and the wedding is in Melbourne. My partner will be staying in Adelaide as he will be recovering from surgery.
It's an impossible situation unfortunately. Unless I am prepared to leave him with a stranger (which I'm not), we can't go. We already cancelled the flights and accommodation for bubs and I last night now, anyway, as there is no other option. I know it's only the cost of my flight and accommodation but that's still a lot of money for us.
I know you were only trying to help with your suggestion about leaving my baby in a private room Agape but it's illegal in Australia to leave a baby unattended like that. I wouldn't leave him anyway but just thought I had better to respond in case anyone read it and thought it might be a good idea.
I really do appreciate all of your suggestions and advice but the situation is impossible. They do not want him there and so I can't go. I have calmed down a bit but I am feeling very angry now, rather than just hurt, as I was feeling before. I have spoken to several friends who have attended weddings with newborns and not even thought to ask. I will be most upset to find out that people turn up with babies anyway after I've been told I can't bring mine, when he is the groom's nephew and it is my brother's wedding