Stormageddon- that's a fair call. Thanks for your input
Cathy1- going off the questions marks, i think you may have taken my first post a bit seriously. All of the above. Firstly, its not that i "don't want her", because i knew from day 1 she would be in the picture and have always been happy with that. I understand what marriage is about, but between not being a girly girl and having a teenage girl attitude, she probably wouldn't enjoy throwing petals out of a basket in a pretty dress.. The attitude is just a stage and there's nothing wrong with not being a girly-girl. I'm not a girly-girl by any stretch of the imagination and know more about cars than most men so don't think it's how I want the day to be. I want her to enjoy herself as well and don't want her thinking she has to do it.
My FH's daughter reminds me so much of what I was like when I was her age, so please don't take my comment the wrong way. I was the same size as her when i was her age ive lost weight since, but im still a big girl. I was just looking forward to being taller and broader than the other girls walking down the aisle.
I have already told his daughter that she can come with me and the girls to get our hair and makeup done and get ready on the wedding day but she didn't seem interested. My FH and his family have all said that she likes me and told her dad to marry me so it's not that she doesn't like me, it's just not her thing.
Sidonie - Thank you. My FH originally expected me to have his sister as one of my bridesmaids but I put a stop to that straight away. I love his family and have nothing against any of them but I've only met them all twice so I'm not going to have his family members as my side of the bridal party.
L.I.W- i do think 15 and 13 are too old, but i think our other options are too young and will chuck a tantrum. We're planning having all the littlies away from the ceremony for that reason. I completely agree that itd be unfair to have just a ring bearer from my side but no flowergirl from his side. I think it's going to be easier to just not have either, but he may disagree.
Ps- we'd love to have our staffy at our wedding but the venue won't allow it lol
Ive been reading about having a "sand ceremony" which sounds like it may be a nice thing to do. It has a lot more meaning than being a flower girl and she won't have to wear a dress matching the theme if she doesn't want to.