bec31 wrote:KG - in what way would this be useful to other members (esp new ones?). It's clear to me that new members are treated as intruders. I have asked several times for this to stop but people just keep going!
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Not at all - I have been on this forum for several years and always make an effort with new members. I am not sure how many forums you have been a member of - in my experience over say three seriously (circa 5,000+ posts each forum) and two more as a more casual user - a demand to have a topic locked or telling people to stop responding because you did not get the answer you wanted/expected/the topic went a different way/etc is never going to be looked on kindly.
A forum is a community and topics are contributed to by whichever community member chooses to. Simply by starting a topic does not give you as a new member right of ownership over the answers anymore than me as an 'oldie' would have over a subject I started. By placing something in a public domain you need to be prepared to received opinions/feedback/etc from all walks of life and not always to your taste. And as others have said, and you yourself admitted, the older posts can be of assistance to other forum members in the future.
I do hope you do not feel that you have been treated as an intruder and I also hope that if you do continue to post you take things a little more lightly. I quite often read into things on this or other forums that are probably not intended. If you feel upset simply distance yourself for a few minutes or a day and then come back to it. Planning your wedding should be fun after all