I never once made the assumption that people must have had financial help if their guests did not have to pay for their meals. I just simply said that unlike most people, WE ARE PAYING FOR THIS WEDDING ON OUR OWN AND WITHOUT A BANK LOAN. The last wedding we attended, the parents paid for a majority of that wedding, and the bride and groom got a personal loan to cover the rest, but we still had to pay for our meal..
There are many many brides on this forum who have paid for their own weddings - without parents and bank loans. Its quite an assumption to state that unlike most people you are paying for this wedding on our own and without a bank loan.
Well guess what? I'm going back to uni next year and we are still paying for our wedding in October 2014 on our own - and we will not be asking for our guests to pay the $90 per head. Why? Because I want all of our guests to come and celebrate our marriage - I don't want to put anyone out. I know that if I was invited to a wedding and asked to pay $65 a head (making it $130 for the two of us just for the meal) plus travel costs, accommodation, clothes and all the other possible expenses I wouldn't be impressed.
Just because FH and I have decided to get married doesn't not mean that all of our guests should be put out financially just to come.
There is a bride just recently who may have posted in this thread that had a budget of $5000 - she has made it work to fit within her budget.