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Wed Oct 12, 2011 9:40 pm

I know i'm only half way through my planning, but I wish i'd been told not to assume your bridesmaids know what you are doing.

I've only just communicated to mine properly that i'm going to pay for their hair and makeup on the day... It could have saved them a lot of worrying about how they were going to budget everything.
 
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Fri Oct 14, 2011 5:23 pm

Give someone your camera to take photos for you & make sure you get it back when you leave.

We gave our camera to my brother & he got some amazing photos of us with it - especially of me & the girls in the limo going to the church. I

but it was soo nice to go back to our hotel room & look at the photos and remember all the bits of the day - it was also nice for my husband to see the before & after photos of us girls getting our hair & make-up done!
 
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Sun Oct 23, 2011 11:58 am

From the wedding i went to last night,

Make sure your MOH knows how to straighten out your train properly. The one yesterday flicked the brides dress up high like it was a bedspread and she was making the bed, flashing the brides bum to the whole church. Way to make an entrance. Not.

Don't be a drunk bride, and dance like you're in a bali nightclub, sweaty, no shoes, hair and makeup everywhere with your skirts hitched up in your hands hollering WOOHOO every two minutes. It's not pretty and you can have plenty of fun but still be classier than that.
 
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Sun Oct 23, 2011 3:56 pm

missjedda wrote:
Don't be a drunk bride, and dance like you're in a bali nightclub, sweaty, no shoes, hair and makeup everywhere with your skirts hitched up in your hands hollering WOOHOO every two minutes. It's not pretty and you can have plenty of fun but still be classier than that.


Ha love it I can so picture that- and sadly it wont be me but my SIL that will be doing that!!
 
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Tue Oct 25, 2011 5:17 pm

LillieVandervent wrote:
Zoe Peta wrote:
Hi ladies, I thought I would start this thread up, for all of those getting married to get one piece of advice from those that are already married.


I wish someone told me that if you have a corset bodice, that eating dinner is a non-event. You are squished so tightly into your gown that there is not much room for eating. I ate about 4 forkfulls off my plate, before I was to full! If I was prepared for that, I wouldnt have been so dissapointed about not eating!

It's unbelievable... Thanks for info.


I just discovered this at my wedding and came in here to post this! I was disappointed too, I could barely drink or eat, it was disappointing considering how yummy our food was. And at the end of the night I was thirsty (and once the dress was off, hungry) so the first thing I did was raid the fridge and drink a pint of water, much to the disappointment of my husband ;)

Some of my tips are:
- I slept like a baby the night before the wedding because 2 nights before I had an awful night's sleep. If you're like me where if you have a bad nights sleep the next night you're in bed 8pm, then maybe undersleep a little 2 nights before because getting that good night's sleep made me feel awesome all day.
- Getting someone else to organise the food while we're getting ready (in our case we just ordered platters from a caterer as all our close family was busy getting ready as it was) is worth every single penny. It made it so relaxing and none of us had to do anything while waiting between the girls getting their hair and make up done.
- This might sound obvious to some, but I didn't realise this; It gets really hot under the dress. The maximum was only 28 degs on our day (not hot at all) and I was sweating, especially in the sun (and so was poor DH in the suit). If you're getting married on a warmer day, pick photo locations away from the sun in a cooler location, then you won't feel so gross. (Also, if there's a breeze, then just lifting your dress makes you feel sooooo much cooler!). We were fine too when the clouds came out, but direct sun makes it feel so much hotter with all the layers on.
- The hair lasts longer if you take hair spray and spray it once an hour (advice from our hair dresser). Take the quality hair spray that brushes out too, it doesn't leave a gross coating on the clothes.
- This is for anyone using a bold lipstick that they want to last - After trialling 13 brands, I am still yet to try a single kiss-proof lipstick that lasts the time frame on the label! The best one I could get that I used on the day lasted 3 hours before flaking off. To stop getting random bits of colour on your dress or in your teeth, once you notice it starting to peel in tiny bits (eg. dots on the drink bottle) use wet ones that do not have any oils added (I used the original wet ones with aleo vera only) and get it off using that (as the bits stick to it). When you're sure it's all off, dab it dry with a tissue than reapply. Anything oily leaves a residue that it won't stick to, and you need something moist for the bits to stick to. Oh and ones that don't say 'kiss-proof' but say 'long-lasting' not only aren't kiss-proof, but the colour that sticks when you do kiss doesn't completely come off easily, there's still a residue. But then they don't flake.

I think everything else is in here :)
 
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Wed Nov 02, 2011 4:12 pm

Just wanted to say that I think this Topic is great, and thanks to all those that have posted, It took me a while to get through it all , but has given some great advice on what not to do for our wedding day and after (I'm def sending out the thank yous soon after!! :) )
 
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Sat Nov 05, 2011 11:35 pm

I want to say that i was a nice and calm bride BUT when the florist tried to tell me I hadnt informed him I had moved house (when I KNOW I had showed him not less than 3 times in the melways at the final meeting cause our house is difficult to find, and he wrote notes) that...

It is really easy to fly off the handle and have a bridezilla moment, but listen to the pros my MU/A was fantastic!! She was able to bring me back to the calm serence facade i had in about 3 minutes flat they really do know how to deal with a bride on the throws of a bridezilla moment!

did get my flowers and they were fantastic but the owner of the shop was soooooo rude!!
 
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Mon Nov 07, 2011 9:13 am

i wish someone had told me to pinpoint my out of town guests and take a bit of extra time to catch up with them. Some people travelled simply to be here for that night and i barey got a minute to talk to each of them because (being the bride) i was whisked away by someone else every couple of minutes OR, i'd be on my way to someone and then someone else would stop me and then a crowd would gather and suddenly i'd lose sight of who i was originally going for. Its such a family orientated night that a lot of friends wont come up to you directly whereas family have no problems reaching out and yanking you to a stop.

Anyways, ther were a couple of people that were only in town for that night and my one regret from the night is not getting a chance to speak more then a couple of "thanks for being here" on our welcome round.
 
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Mon Nov 07, 2011 11:20 am

Ayla01 wrote:
i wish someone had told me to pinpoint my out of town guests and take a bit of extra time to catch up with them. Some people travelled simply to be here for that night and i barey got a minute to talk to each of them because (being the bride) i was whisked away by someone else every couple of minutes OR, i'd be on my way to someone and then someone else would stop me and then a crowd would gather and suddenly i'd lose sight of who i was originally going for. Its such a family orientated night that a lot of friends wont come up to you directly whereas family have no problems reaching out and yanking you to a stop.

Anyways, ther were a couple of people that were only in town for that night and my one regret from the night is not getting a chance to speak more then a couple of "thanks for being here" on our welcome round.


One of our uni friends actually told us that exact same thing and it was very appreciated!
 
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Tue Nov 08, 2011 9:19 am

If you want to make sure you look nice all night, give one of your bridesmaids the specific task of reminding you to touch up your makeup (and ask them to carry your lipstick, blotting powder etc in their bag - I had NO IDEA where my fancy purse was for most of the night!) It's a big night for them too, and if you don't delegate it as a job for one person, it will get forgotten. By halfway through the reception I look shiny in all my pics.

If you have stepkids or other child guests that you think might act up while their parents are in the wedding (sister's kids, BMs kids etc) buddy them each up with a family member they know and quietly ask that person beforehand to sit with them and be their minder. If there are groups of siblings that tend to rev each other up, sit them with adults sandwiched in between. My stepsons were surprisingly great during the ceremony (I honestly expected rowdiness as they weren't happy about Dad getting married) but I think having their uncles and aunts on patrol helped, plus I didn't have to worry about them starting to squabble during the vows!

Our guests all LOVED their out of town bags. We wrote personal notes in each one thanking them for coming, and I baked super easy biscuits, bought choccies from a confectionery warehouse and put in some bottles of water, a photocopied map and some cute guides to Brisbane. People raved about them and I think it made them feel special and appreciated.

Check your undies under your dress before the day. My dress is very light and flowing and the waistband of my expensive "invisible" knickers left a line in a few of the pictures. Not a disaster, but I noticed!

Honestly, get a script for some sleeping pills and try them out before the day. We got back to the hotel from pre-wedding drinks on the Friday night before the wedding to find that the hotel was holding another wedding and it was incredibly noisy. My sister was in tears because she didn't think she'd sleep, and I was super wound up - three of us ended up taking the still.nox I'd brought and we were all so grateful to get to sleep!

Umm - have your speech written before the morning of the wedding!!!! I was so busy it kept getting pushed back and back. Luckily I've done a lot of public speaking and knew it would be fine, but it was still a stress.

If you can/it's your thing, try to go to the gym for a quick session on the morning of the wedding - it really helped my stress and energy levels and my arms looked toned because I spent ten minutes doing some light weights.

Other people have said it, but tuck a hanky into the handle of your bouquet. I did and was so glad.

Ask very social friends (couples can be good) to be in charge of mingling and introducing themselves and other guests during cocktail hour while you're having your photos done. Some people have a knack for socialising and they'll feel honoured to be asked. It really helped the two "sides" get to know each other - I was surprised by some of the unlikely friendships that sprang up!

Don't have more than one or two photo locations. Honestly, it's not worth the stress! On the day, I didn't feel like going anywhere extra and was so glad we had our bridal party shots at the ceremony venue. (The MASSIVE hailstorm happening at the time also encouraged us to stay put!)

Make sure your MC doesn't start speeches etc until he/she can see that you and your husband are there and ready. Ours got a bit caught up on the timeline and started while I was in the bathroom having my dress bustled. And then later I had to drag my husband off the deck where he was on the phone to his mum because the DJ was announcing our first dance without either of us there!

I was glad we didn't tie ourselves down to a particular leaving time, e.g. by having cars booked or setting up a sparkler exit etc. We decided to just see how we felt and on the night we really wanted to stay to the bitter end and were the last to leave, waiting for taxis out on the road with our stayer guests. It was great!

If you leave the next morning for your honeymoon, ask your mum or someone to go around while you're away and tidy up your house a little bit if anyone got ready for the wedding there. Between the groom, four groomsmen, brother-in-law and three stepsons our house was TRASHED. My mum kindly did it without asking (it took her and dad all day!), but if I'd thought of it I wouldn't have left it to chance.

It's obviously a budget issue, but we were so grateful to have decided to book a videographer! My brother couldn't come unexpectedly, and my husband's mum hurt her back badly and couldn't be there either. It was such a comfort that we could show them the video - my M-I-L cried with happiness when she realised she could still see our wedding. Plus it's really cute - my husband loves it even more than me has shown approximately twenty seven thousand people so far!
Here's the teaser...

http://www.lumina-mp.com/blog/2011/10/1 ... ipops.html
 
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Tue Nov 08, 2011 9:40 am

Awww MsBreeze - you and your man made me shed tears when you read those letters :D Loved it :heart:
 
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Tue Nov 08, 2011 5:19 pm

OMG i was tearing up too! That was gorgeous. Thank you for your advice as well!
 
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Tue Nov 08, 2011 8:33 pm

Great tips and an amazing video! I need my tissues now! Can't wait for your HOF!
 
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Fri Dec 02, 2011 3:49 pm

Ali that video is amazing...Thanks so much for sharing!

The tips throughout this whole thread have been so helpful! Thank you to all the lovely brides who have contributed and shared your wisdom!
 
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Thu Dec 29, 2011 7:11 pm

hey girls i loved this thread pre wedding so thought id add my own:

- weather. dont follow the forecast it changes so much & causes unwanted stress in the end the high chance of rain for my day didnt eventuate & we had blue skys!

-emotions. im not an emotional person normally but the wedding really messed me up i even had a cry the morning of before getting my makeup done!

- sleep. i didnt sleep much the thursday night & not more then a few hours the friday night so get plenty of rest the week leading up!

- boys. boys will be boys the night before & will go out drinking. or wrestle on the way home our groomsmen required powder for a slight black eye! i didnt notice luckily!

- hoop & garter. make sure they arent too tight. i didnt feel it all day till we got back to the room & couldnt wait to get them off. i had marks on my waist & leg until the Thursday!!

- toilet breaks. i didnt go to the toilet before getting dressed (forgot) but didnt need to go until nearing the end of the reception. when i needed to go i went with DH to the disabled easy as! i think all the nerves held it in as i drank quite a bit before the ceremony.

- bottle water. i forgot the water for the photoshoot only had alcohol but water would have been amazing!

- speech. even if you dont plan to do one plan anyway! i had no plans to do one but then was pressured to do it on the spot would have been easier if i had thought about it!

- get a video. im so glad i did as the ceremony is a complete blur!
 
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Fri Dec 30, 2011 11:15 am

another good one, is if you have had very little sleep the night before lets face it we're all guilty!

Freeze some teabags that you have wet down just enough that the tea turns darker, great for wedding morning "i've had no sleep" bags
and for red eyes, another i've had no sleep syptom for me at least, keep some "clear eyes" on hand for before you do you make up will clear your eyes up and you'll look sparkling!!
 
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Wed Jan 18, 2012 10:21 pm

This thread makes me so excited for our wedding! I hope it will all go great. This thread is great for keeping me focussed and trouble shooting. will definately deligate for the night-
FSIL/step mum- take a video if possible, be in charge of the video camera.
Bridesmaid M- be in charge of reminding me to reapply my makeup.
Mum- give her a list, ask her to be in charge of making sure everything gets collected after ceremony and reception.
FH- create an esky for the photoshoot with drinks, water, some nibbles, glasses, etc.
Guests- A & L, C & A Be in charge of mingling with people who look lost / alone
Bridesmaid S- if I can convince her-lol- do an early morning workout with me!
 
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Tue Jan 31, 2012 11:33 am

We are not married yet..but I WISH someone had told me that regardless of how organised you are: having a long engagement, sending out STD cards well in advance, creating a wedding website with ALL the info guests need, people are still going to ask you SEVERAL times stupid irrelevant questions that they could easily find the answers for on the website! If one more person asks me about accommodation I am going to scream. Its not that hard....go to the website, click on the accommodation tab with maps and voila - the info is there!

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