Hey hun, they are very different reasons but it doesnt make it any less difficult to deal with. I'm sorry you're going through that - I have been keeping track of you on your blog (your post about going home to your old room just about made me cry!).
1 - You will start talking again - you've both just been through an ENORMOUS amount of change and stress. It's almost too hard right now to get out how you're feeling..you've gone from having sleep-overs to being husband and wife! It's a massive thing to go through and now you're living together! You're right there for each other ALL THE TIME! It takes time to get used to that..to not have your space to yourself anymore. But you will get used to it and you will start talking again - there is a reason you married your DH, he's your best friend! The person you can talk to about anything.. it will start with a funny story about something that happened during the day or how something made you think of him and it will slowly build from there.. give it time
2 - I had never lived away from home before living with DH either - and I missed my mum a lot for the first month or so.. I emailed her every day at work and she called me in the afternoons/evenings. That made it easier through the transition and now I am fine on my own (but I still catch up with her every other weekend for a coffee when DH is away). You will be ok - just tell your family how you're feeling - they love you and probably miss you just as much. Talk to them every day to help yourself through - there's no medal for being a toughie and going cold turkey!
3 - Mortgages SUCK!! I said to DH the other day, "Can you imagine if we didn't have a mortgage anymore?!". I can't even being to imagine what life would be like! My DH is a little different though - he has to force me to spend money (there is just nothing I need/want at the moment). We have our own personal spending money every month - pull it out in cash and spend it on what you want. I think maybe in this situation you have to be the toughie (I'll send you a medal
) and say, you need to do YOU things every month and shouldn't feel guilty for that so here is what's going to happen - because it's TRUE! You are both entitled to do something for yourselves each month, free of guilt and worries about the mortgage. If he doesn't want to spend anything for the month, that's his choice - I'm sure if it's there though that he will
Wow this post has become incredibly long! I am coping but still having ups and downs..a guy stepping on my heel on the bus this monring made me well up.. I am getting there..