Hi - yeh, I had the same issues. I think I vented awhile back on this forum about the same thing.
I'm trying to relax and accept that this is just the way it works in relaxed countries. I want fireworks at the reception and I was told "we will discuss it at your pre wedding meeting" - which is 3 days before the wedding!!!
I think the main issues are getting a hotel organised (our hotel is now booked out-2 months prior to wedding), and knowing what you want. I think if you know exactly what you want - they'll get it for you in 24hrs.
I don't think the Balinese are well known for their schedules, lists and paperwork
Makes it hard for us with our planning though!!!