Wow this topic has really taken off, thanks everyone for the tips and advice! I have been very slack in checking back here as I decided to leave wedding things alone for a little while.. was getting overwhelming!
Anyway where we are at now.. Villa wedding no longer an option. It was just getting to expensive for us. By the time you pay the event hire fees, wedding planner, decorations etc it gets just as expensive as a wedding here SO we have looked at resort weddings instead. I think we have found the very place with a reasonable package - Blue Point Resort and Villas! http://www.bluepointbayvillas.com/en/wedding.html
The clifftop location is perfect, view is gorgeous and chapel is devine. Just perfect for what we wanted. The package is also wonderful and im dealing with Kadek the resorts wedding planner directly and OMG he responds to my emails within a couple of hours, answers all of my questions.. cant speak highly enough of him so far. My only issue is that I asked not to use the photographer included in the package as I do like Iwans work.. the resort will only deduct $150 from the package price which really isnt very much in the grand scheme of things so I have to decide if i want to spend the extra money on my own photographer or use the one they refer... hmm!
I love the tips on hair and makeup and off to check out those sites now. The resort can organise a cake for us - 2 tier for $200 and the pics look great so im pretty happy with that! My flowers, decorations, flower girls, photographer (gah!) and everything else is included in the package so this all just got alot easier! They send my photo is and I pic which one I like.. too simple!
Im glade there are a few of us getting married in bali