I'm struggling bridemaid wise - FH has picked 3 boys that he wants to be groomsmen. Me on the other hand - I have my cousin who was an easy choice. I have a good friend who is currently living in London who has accepted to be a bridesmaid but she can't guarantee if she can afford to come back (which I completely understand). I'm stuck on a third (and possibly second bridesmaid). I dont have an particularly close girl friends. There are a couple of girls I could choose, but I don't feel 100% on any of them. FH doesn't want uneven bridal party (and neither do I), and his choice of the 3 are three boys that have replaced in family who haven't been supportive on him for many years. FH's best man has a girlfriend that I get along with really well but we aren't super close. Its hard I've never been a bridesmaid for someone else so I don't really know what the expectation is for asking someone?
I'm also stressing about our budget - I'm trying to cut down costs where-ever possible but we are still looking at about $15-17k plus the honeymoon. Its going to be tough but I'm hoping it will work out. I'm also hoping my parents contribute something to help the budget along. They keep hinting and I would never ask out of principle but it would be nice.
I'm having the same kind of issue- at this stage it looks like FH is having 4 GM and 1 BestMan, and we don't want it to be uneven. FMIL is pushing to have lots of her family (I don't have any relatives I'd like to have) and I'm stalling as I already have SIL, one friend and possibly FH's cousin (which is frankly enough of his family for me!). It's a very tough thing to think about :/
ANd the budget is also something I'm worrying about. We wanted to stick under 20k, however at this stage I've estimated about 27k. MIL will be giving us some money ,but she hasn't told us how much, so it's hard to know how much we'll need. And I think my parents will give us some, but I don't know how much either. MIL will either give us enough to cover the reception for her family (which is 70 people) or all the board we've been paying, which is quite a bit, I think.
It would just be nice to know so we can stop worrying, as house costs might be spiraling a bit :/
I can't wait to be finished uni in May so I can stop worrying about stuff. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed about everything, even though we've planned so well.