Post wedding depression

[kimberlina81]

Well it's been ages since my wedding and I've fully happy again now but for a couple of months or so after my wedding I suffered post wedding depression. I am sure some of you have too. It sounds ridiculous to say out loud, so you keep it to yourself and just feel sad inside and don't understand why. None of my friends knew.

I had the wedding of my dreams. Absolutely EVERYTHING went right on the day. It was perfect, the weather was beautiful and I am so blessed. But after reality sunk in of the fact that I was never going to be a bride again (well, hopefully!!) and never going to be able to have such a beautiful function with my friends and family. I would never wear such a beautiful dress again. All my decisions were done and dusted and I couldn't look through a bridal magazine ever again legitimately!! I love weddings and I have been with my now hubby for ten years (11 now) so I'd been thinking about my dream wedding with him for a decade.

It does get better and it is not silly. Your feelings are real. Feel sad for what you have left behind (you're no longer a 'bride') and feel overjoyed for the husband you now have and the future you have together.

DH and I are going to Japan at the end of the year for 2 months to learn Japanese, a dream I've always had but never fulfilled. I'd love it to be longer but I'd also like to keep my job. Then next year we have a lot of renovating to do (have an old QLD'er) and after that we'll see what happens!

Please believe me when I say you are not alone, it will get better and although I didn't use this forum at that time (just gave up on all things wedding related for a while), I'm sure everyone on this forum will support you and help you through it.

[Darens Girl]

[LR]

Thanks for sharing your story - I'm sure it helps new brides to know that they are not alone when they have these feelings.

I'm hoping that after my wedding I can preoccupy myself with planning other things (as I LOVE planning). For starters our main honeymoon is 9 months later, then hopefully building a house, etc.

[Palm Cove Bride]

I don't know how many of you ladies suffered from this but I'm interested to know how many didn't? (Sorry I mean to hijack this thread) I may be in the minority who didn't get post wedding depression mainly because I had some dramas with my parents so after the wedding I had post wedding happiness because it was finally over!

After 3yrs of planning my wedding I was worried I would get post wedding depression but i didnt, not in the slightest. I can understand that many brides would suffer from it in one way or another. For me after the wedding there was still so much wedding related stuff to do months and months later - there was getting our proof photos back and going through picking the ones to go in our album as well as showing family and friends and getting parents to pick the photots they wanted which i then used to create their own personal parent album thru momento which kept me really busy for a several months. There was also getting our highlight dvd to share then our full length wedding dvd and sharing that with everyone. Then it was 5mth after the wedding when we got our massive digital coffee table pro album. Then there was the bridal expo fashion show that i was lucky enough to compete in 8mths after the wedding so i got to wear my dress again. And more than a 1yr after the wedding im still trying to finish a scrapbook of our entire wedding day which is keeping me extremely busy with wedding type stuff.

[*Riss*]

Thanks for the advice, I am worried about this too as I have been planning for so long

[mandamoo]

I don't know how many of you ladies suffered from this but I'm interested to know how many didn't? (Sorry I mean to hijack this thread) I may be in the minority who didn't get post wedding depression mainly because I had some dramas with my parents so after the wedding I had post wedding happiness because it was finally over!

I didnt get post wedding depression. My planning of the wedding was very relaxing and didnt have any dramas whatsoever everything fell into place.

I was worried I would but didnt..It wouldnt be a nice feeling as I suffer depression anyway.

[craigs girl]

I didnt get post wedding depression. My planning of the wedding was very relaxing and didnt have any dramas whatsoever everything fell into place.

Me too! I absolutely loved planning our wedding and there were very few stressful moments, and for those reasons I thought I would be a bit depressed after the wedding. But I wasn't at all I think it wasn't until we went to another wedding in October that I thought, 'I have had aboslutely nothing to do with this wedding, I dont know what their colour sheme is of what flowers they are having etc' and that suited me down to the ground. I think it helped that people were asking to see my photos for about 6 months after the wedding so that brought back a bit of the happiness of the day and allowed me to relive it a bit.

[Autumn2010]

I didn't get PWD. Yeah it is a little bit of a bummer that i won't get to wear my dress again (well in front of people) but i was glad it was over, loved it all so much, but glad it was done. Thats with 2.5yrs planning. I was a bit depressed after the wedding but that was due to all the crap dh and i got put through not because of PWD.

[*Riss*]

You girls that had no dramas are very lucky, I have had dramas non stop from the people that are supposied to 'care'. And the girl from work that is getting married has had the worst time ever (which actually makes me feel like I have nothing at allto worry about) her mother in law has been a constant nightmare, probably why today she has an ear and lung infection, the day before her wedding

Thank goodness I have a very supportive Mother and FH

[MissChookz]

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