Ashling wrote:ssci1 wrote:we made a rule, we're only inviting family and closest friends. we're both agreed not to have people from work and none of the "cousin of a cousin has to come because they invited FHs parents to wedding back in 1984" business. we've been together for 8 years, if I haven't met them, then they're really not "family".
I sort of did the same thing. My theory was, would I pay $150 to go out for dinner with this person? If not, why would I pay $150 to have them at my wedding?
Thats a really good theory, Ashling, my BM Kate said she did a similar thing with her wedding, and its what I'm doing with mine - Can i justify spending $115 for that person to be there?? If not, don't invite them.
Even though my parents are covering the reception, they did say " within reasonable limits" and they basically said no more than 100 including the bridal party. My family is kinda small compared to my FH, so i have a similar number of close friends coming to his family, and he has a similar number of close friends to my family - So it works out.
Cos they are paying for it, they said they don't mind if i use them as the excuse not to invite someone - " Sorry the parents are paying for it and we just don't have the room". FH has said i can use him as an excuse too saying he doesn't want a big wedding ( but to him, more than 50 is big, so thats like, JUST family, and thats so not happening )